As we go through life we will notice patterns and habits. Let's talk about patterns first.
Many people are predictable because we will notice a pattern with them. Meaning, they keep doing the same thing over again even after saying "I'm sorry, it won't happen again." We forgive them and the relationship/friendship continues even though "I'm sorry" was said in vein. This is where boundaries must be put in place.
Habits
Not only will we notice patterns with people in our lives we will also notice our own patterns/habits. If we continue to accept an apology for the same repetitive pattern we are allowing ourselves to feel hurt and heartache because we have fallen into a pattern that then becomes a habit.
In order to break the cycle we must set boundaries. Setting boundaries is not to be confused with "putting up walls". Setting boundaries is a healthy start to finding happiness, peace and joy in our lives. Boundaries can be compared to "putting your foot down" and saying "enough is enough". We must stick to those boundaries not only for ourselves but for those around us.
Breaking the cycle will require a support system from someone on the outside looking in. Someone who has set boundaries in their own lives and has achieved happiness, peace and joy within themselves and of course someone who is qualified to help you. If you have explored my website you will see that I am a Certified Happiness Life Coach, an Ordained Minister and a Named Soul Therapist. When you are ready to break they cycle, when you are ready to find happiness please message right here on my website so that we can get started!
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